It’s a very British thing to try to avoid feeling too pleased with ourselves isn’t it? Maybe it’s something in our collective psyche that means as we’re grinning in delight we’re secretly thinking ‘this can’t last’ and warning ourselves not to get too smug just in case the bad luck fairy decides to bring us down a peg or too.
So we grow up with these ridiculous, limiting and often self-fulfilling sayings like ‘Pride comes before a fall’, ‘Don’t crow too loud or you’ll jinx yourself’ and my particular favourite ‘Laugh before breakfast and there’ll be tears before bedtime.’ Great, so even before you’ve polished off your corn flakes your chances of a mirthful day have been ruled out!
You can probably see where I’m going with this. Yes, Little Bear embarrassed himself with a horrible display of bullying in the park a couple of days ago. Distraction worked very well for a while, enthusiastic praise given for the right behaviour (calm bum sniffing in the accepted fashion) but then as the (rather large) youngster rolled on his back in he went with the bully boy routine.
On the bright side I remained calm. Now that I know that he’s not intent on doing any physical harm it’s not quite as terrifying, but I don’t underestimate the psychological harm he could do to a young dog. Granted, most pups will get told off dozens of times in your youth with no ill effects, but if like Little Bear you’re a sensitive type, then you risk creating a problem.
I’ve learned that physically moving him, as is often tempting with a portable sized dog just makes him cross, so I now get him to leave of his own accord by saying ‘Bye’ and moving away. His need to be with me over-riding his need to be a bully he comes galloping over quick time.
Thankfully the youngsters owner was very understanding and the dog himself seemed fine, but that didn’t make me feel much better. 😦 This is probably the most difficult time. As his behaviour improves it’s hard not to fool yourself into thinking that he’s suddenly, magically ‘cured’ of his bad habits meaning that any regression comes as a bit of a shock.
But I’m refusing to fall into the trap of inevitability. One relapse does nothing to diminish all of the great progress he’s made up until now. So to hell with ‘Pride comes before a fall’ – LB and I deserve our moments of pride. We didn’t jinx ourselves and just for the record we’ve had many a day when we’ve laughed from breakfast right through till bedtime.
“Our greatest glory consists not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall.”
Oliver Goldsmith